But before I do, the following brief transcript, occurred during our recent house move, and although similar to many before, was the final straw.
Wife: 'Your stuff has to be ready by Tuesday'
Husband: 'Don't worry, I'll have it done'.
Sunday (noticed stuff not done)
Wife: 'Just reminding you about Tuesday'.
Husband: 'I said I'll get it done, stop Nagging'.
Tuesday (moving day)
Low and behold, husband doesn't have his sh*t together and is running around like a chook (chicken) with it's head cut off, while yelling at me to help him, and boldly suggesting that, I didn't tell him this had to be done! Short of wanting to drop kick his ass to China, I calmly reminded him that, I had told him, however because I didn't want to NAG, I let it go.
So, what is Nagging Wife Syndrome, and how did I become the nagging wife that I swore I'd never become? I went directly to the source to find out, and according to my husband, I'm not a nag, rather, I get frustrated, and use a strategic placement of ideas to get my point across (ah, in English).
Does, this mean then, that 'husband' has no sense of urgency, and, that unless I use my strategic placement of ideas appropriately, nothing will get done? And, in that case, could the root of Nagging Wife Syndrome be, in fact, the insouciant Man?
What needs to be done today, should have been done yesterday has always been my philosophy, however, from what I've observed throughout life and marriage, while most women appear to follow this same philosophy, most men don't!
But it's not their fault! Men and women have been wired differently, each induced with obliged specifications from birth, subconsciously nourished by parents and society, throughout their childhood. Little girls play house and marriage, while little boys play guns and trucks. Girls get frustrated with the boys foolishness (innocent pre insouciance?), while boys get frustrated with the girl's bossiness (innocent pre nagging?).
Now, hold on for a minute. Does this mean that wives don't actually nag, rather they become an unfortunate element of their husband's inability to display any sense of urgency, due to wiring and childhood foolishness?
HECK NO! I've witnessed pure nagging in true defiance of all laws, these fire-breathing, nag spewing dragons, I'd slay with my own sword. I'm just opening up the idea that perhaps in 9 out of 10 cases, women simply get fed up with delay, and, rather than play the 'I'll just do it myself', out of principle, repeat and repeat and repeat the specific placement of ideas!
Now, it's your turn. Have you been privy to Nagging Wife Syndrome, whether you be a genuine fire breathing dragon, or just, simply frustrated?