Mar 2, 2011

The Nagging Wife - EXPOSED!

After almost seven years of research marriage, I am ready to dodge all bullets and expose my version of the Nagging Wife Syndrome.

But before I do, the following brief transcript, occurred during our recent house move, and although similar to many before, was the final straw.

Friday
Wife:    'Your stuff has to be ready by Tuesday'
Husband:  'Don't worry, I'll have it done'.

Sunday (noticed stuff not done)
Wife:    'Just reminding you about Tuesday'.
Husband: 'I said I'll get it done, stop Nagging'.

Tuesday (moving day)
Low and behold, husband doesn't have his sh*t together and is running around like a chook (chicken) with it's head cut off, while yelling at me to help him, and boldly suggesting that, I didn't tell him this had to be done!   Short of wanting to drop kick his ass to China, I calmly reminded him that, I had told him, however because I didn't want to NAG, I let it go.

So, what is Nagging Wife Syndrome, and how did I become the nagging wife that I swore I'd never become?  I went directly to the source to find out, and according to my husband, I'm not a nag, rather, I get frustrated, and use a strategic placement of ideas to get my point across (ah, in English).

Does, this mean then, that 'husband' has no sense of urgency, and, that unless I use my strategic placement of ideas appropriately, nothing will get done?  And, in that case, could the root of Nagging Wife Syndrome be, in fact, the insouciant Man?

What needs to be done today, should have been done yesterday has always been my philosophy, however, from what I've observed throughout life and marriage, while most women appear to follow this same philosophy, most men don't!

But it's not their fault!  Men and women have been wired differently, each induced with obliged specifications from birth, subconsciously nourished by parents and society, throughout their childhood.  Little girls play house and marriage, while little boys play guns and trucks.  Girls get frustrated with the boys foolishness (innocent pre insouciance?), while boys get frustrated with the girl's bossiness (innocent pre nagging?).

Now, hold on for a minute.  Does this mean that wives don't actually nag, rather they become an unfortunate element of their husband's inability to display any sense of urgency, due to wiring and childhood foolishness?

HECK NO!  I've witnessed pure nagging in true defiance of all laws,  these fire-breathing, nag spewing dragons, I'd slay with my own sword.   I'm just opening up the idea that perhaps in 9 out of 10 cases, women simply get fed up with delay, and, rather than play the 'I'll just do it myself', out of principle, repeat and repeat and repeat the specific placement of ideas!

Now, it's your turn.  Have you been privy to Nagging Wife Syndrome, whether you be a genuine fire breathing dragon, or just, simply frustrated?

Crikey!

21 comments:

  1. Hey there!
    Were you writing this about me? LOL! Felt like i was looking into the mirror. So true about the part being differently wired. Keep writing! i will follow you.
    Caught your trail from bloggy moms.
    you can catch me at www.mothersonthego.com

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  2. Huh! Thanks for following, and for your comment. BTW, how on earth do you keep your blog so organized and interesting..it's insane..you never seem to stop writing..I love it!

    Crikey!

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  3. New CanadianMarch 03, 2011

    This one hits home, Trudes! In my former life I was married to someone born without the ability to accomplish anything without considerable "encouragement" from me and I was frustrated and annoyed much of the time, usually doing everything myself. Those days are gone, and my new and improved husband is from a different mold than most men - he is far more organized, proactive and driven than I am, so I can finally relax and enjoy the fact that things get done before I even realize they need to. Life is good!

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  4. Newest Follower from Bloggy Mom and a fellow Expat living in the US (I'm from Canada). I have to admit my husband nags me more than I nag him. I swear we have reverse gender rolls.

    http://andweareoffto.blogspot.com/

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  5. My mailbox said- mail from Crickey mUm. Thanks for the comments, Dont we love being appreciated a little- even it is our own kinds....do you have a FB profile, would like to add you to mine. I go by the same name: http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Mothers-On-The-GoQuick-Tips-for-busy-mothers/151417088241346

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  6. Great blog entry about nagging your husband for not getting his crap together for the move. Wasn't sure if I should laugh or be mad!

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  7. New Canadian: New and improved husband..that cracks me up. thanks for the comment.

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  8. Amie: Interesting, the reverse...I have not seen that before. thanks for the comment and follow. I'm a follower of you also.

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  9. Hi Mother on the Go: Thanks for your comment. I'm working on my FB Crikey mUm page and will let you know once completed.

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  10. Ha! I’m like Amie, my husband nags me way more than I do him. When we PSC’d from Hawaii I was running around the night before getting my shit together. Not as bad as the morning of, but still not appreciated by the hubs. ( :

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  11. Hey Mimibur: seems like there are some nagging hubbies out there...hmm. Thank goodness we did get it all sorted as moving day was HORRENDOUS!

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  12. Your all the post is so interesting so when is the next post coming?

    sem media

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  13. Thanks Sem Media: Been hectic with our house move, and have a post written, just needs some uncluttered editing.

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  14. If nagging gets the slow moving, to go; I am all for it!! I refuse to do for those who will not do for themselves. :) At least these days my hubby writes down the "placement of ideas" in a little notebook...especially for our move to Spain!! As long as it is noteworthy. :) Love your blog...thanks for sharing!

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  15. Awesome post - so very interesting!
    Glad I found your blog!
    Following you from Bloggy Moms.
    You can find me over at:
    http://rominagarciamartyrhood.blogspot.com/

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  16. This was so funny - and so true. Nag? Moi? No, no - it is truly frustration. But then he said, "Don't tell me what to do" one time to many so I let him flounder along & fix messes that could have been avoided. Chalk up 1 for me!

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  17. I had a conversation about this idea just today. Not about nagging, but about men getting used to women bailing them out.

    How do we win without compliance? Heck if I know. If we let them fail, everything becomes a mess that we have to live through (or clean up). If we take care of it, they have no motivation to change. Seriously, this conundrum is just more proof that God is a man. He probably gets lots of laughs out of it. Just like my husband.

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  18. It's so refreshing to see that I'm not the only one who deals with this problem. Okay, so that's not news to me but still...it's just nice to read about it on someone else's blog- it makes me feel better. :)

    Happy SITS day!

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  19. Love it...strategic placement of ideas...yeah, that's it! Love this!

    Lots of yummy love,
    Alex aka Ma What's For Dinner
    www.mawhats4dinner.com

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  20. im a nag, but its not my fault....my husband made me that way :)

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  21. I don't mean to be a nag. But someone has to be right and I guess if I must wear that badge -- sweet hubby should listen to me.

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