Comments on Crikey mUm!: Is Honesty The Best Policy Even If You Don't Like ...

@Priscilla, thanks for your comment, truly appreci...

2011-10-04T14:25:29.300-04:00

@Priscilla, thanks for your comment, truly appreciate. They say you have to have a bloody good memory to be a liar..shit I can't remember what I walked upstairs for sometimes :)

Best to leave comments on the blog than on blogfro...

2011-10-04T13:50:08.760-04:00

Best to leave comments on the blog than on blogfrog!

I used to ask for an honest opinion from most people but a lot of people refuse to be honest now a days because it makes for an uneasy relationship even between friends.

White lies are okay but I don't want anyone to lie to me about major items. Ever. I hate lieing so honesty is the best policy in my mind.

But, when it comes to me being honest I can hurt peoples feeling by doing so as I am blunt.

And, when it comes to crimes....boy do I hate the sugar coaters! Anybody stupid enough to NOT realize that they left evidence is ridiculous and then on top of it lie that they did and still get prosecuted.

My honesty makes people sick. So I should probably...

2011-10-04T13:49:44.765-04:00

My honesty makes people sick. So I should probably start asking if they really want the answer or not too

I think being up front helps people understand whe...

2011-10-04T13:47:51.077-04:00

I think being up front helps people understand where I am coming from. Honesty is always best, but with care. I never want to hurt someone's feelings, but if you ask me something I will tell you what you don't want to hear, otherwise then why ask? My mother is brutally honest to a fault, but I try and practice this with care. I am strictly straight-forward so you will get a no-nonsense answer from me.

Be careful what you ask for....

Good question PJ!

Thanks for your comment, and indeed, sometimes it ...

2011-09-26T09:45:49.769-04:00

Thanks for your comment, and indeed, sometimes it may be better to spare feelings, I don't mind that, but when it comes down to the nitty gritty, regardless of sugar coating or spared feelings, the truth is best and I've found the same, that it does always come out in some shape or another. I'd rather be disliked for telling the truth than for being caught out for not telling it.

Just wish that were true for all the criminal cases out there, make everyone's lives a lot less heartbreaking.

You can only tell the truth to people that want to...

2011-09-26T09:28:19.775-04:00

You can only tell the truth to people that want to hear it or will accept it and wont be offended or get angry. Most people can't handle the truth, so why tell them what they really don't want to hear or admit to if it's going to cause problems? Sometimes I rather let things go then harp on them and have to tell someone a week later that "yeah your kid was acting like a brat" and risk having them mad at something that really doesn't even matter anymore. I know that even people that really care about me will at times spare my feelings and perhaps tell me what I want to hear, but when I ask for the honest truth I hope they do care about me to give it to me straight! I've asked people for the truth recently and although I may like what I hear, it is still one side of the story. I read once that there are two sides to every story and that the truth lies somewhere in between. I guess it comes down to perspective because your truth may not be the same as someone else in the exact situation and you have to judge what you're hearing for yourself. I hope people are honest with me but even if they aren't the real truth will come out sooner and later. So, instead of wasting my time worrying about it and stressing out about people lying, I worry about the things that matter. But, let me set it straight, if you ask me if your breath smells then be ready because I will tell you yes, it smells like a sewer...it's the least I could do!! btw, your ass looked fat in those pants yesterday!! J/K LOL!!!!!!

Only on Friday's though right??? :)

2011-09-26T08:48:57.717-04:00

Only on Friday's though right??? :)

Trudi, yes, its time I tell you the truth... your ...

2011-09-26T08:48:39.505-04:00

Trudi, yes, its time I tell you the truth... your breath smells like a sewer explosion! ;) (You are so funny!)

Yes, you are right..it's HOW you say something...

2011-09-26T08:23:40.170-04:00

Yes, you are right..it's HOW you say somethings v.s WHAT you say indeed. Oh, how I've learned that the hard way!

I laugh as you say 'too honest'...it's a shame sometimes that being too honest is considered wrong, but I do understand that we don't always like what the answer is...nobody wants to get hurt.

agreed!! And I will always tell the truth as well....

2011-09-26T08:23:13.884-04:00

agreed!! And I will always tell the truth as well. But thankfully I"m learning how to do it in a nicer way. "You look like crap." vs. "You look like you're having a rough day. How are things?" etcetera.

I'm learning some tact but it's a slow process. :) However, honesty has never been a problem with me haha. On that note though- I find being friends with women EXTREMELY tricky as an often-too-honest person. No idea why that is.. ;)